I recently asked over 100 women this question: "What is your biggest challenge in your love life right now?" The #1 response was TRUST, with CONFIDENCE a very close second.

Confidence and trust often break down after a breakup, or when you’re continually arguing with your partner. Your world grows uncertain, your faith in relationship is shaken and you start second-guessing your decisions.

Losing trust causes you to lose your self-confidence. And losing confidence only creates more distrust. It becomes a difficult cycle that can be hard to break and can sabotage your chances of attracting a loving relationship in the future. Here's why...

A Loss Of Trust In Men Actually Repels Quality Men

When a woman loses trust due to a painful breakup or repeated arguing, it negatively impacts how she shows up in dating and in love. She may unknowingly use subconscious defense strategies to protect her vulnerable heart. But quality men can sense those strategies, causing them to pull away.

Men want to be trusted in relationship. They want to be a safe place for the woman they love to express herself. So when a man encounters remnants of distrust directed towards him, he sees it as a red flag. It signals him that he may not be emotionally safe with you.

Even the highest quality man craves to be trusted. When he doesn't feel that trust, he loses confidence in the potential of the relationship. Unconscious tests of a man’s trustworthiness will repel a man faster than almost anything else women do. A woman may provoke an argument to see if he leaves the relationship. She might also express suspicion by asking intrusive questions or snooping through his personal communications.

A man wants to step into a relationship where he feels trusted, not doubted. If he senses you don't truly trust him, it destroys his confidence in creating something meaningful with you.

When he doesn't feel that openness, he sees no way to win. So he cuts his losses to search for a woman who is free to love.

Build Confidence After Heartbreak

Now here comes the good news! It‘s totally possible to rediscover trust, even after painful betrayals. But to fully trust again, you must rebuild confidence that radiates from within. This "inner confidence" acts like a magnet for high-quality men. It signals that you trust yourself first and foremost. This self-trust provides space for men to be trusted fully, too.

Cultivating confidence is the key to overcoming the past hurts that tore down your spirit. With real confidence in yourself, you can attract someone worthy of you. Someone you can freely give your heart to without fear.

I recently coached an attractive woman named Sarah who had PTSD regarding her love life. Over the last 4 years, she had started several relationships through online dating, each one ending in heartbreak. All the men broke up with her because she didn’t trust herself enough to communicate her desires in a powerful way, and she couldn’t trust the men to commit to a long term relationship with her. She felt panicked because she wants to raise a family with a man who will cherish her and their children.

Through a series of proven steps in the LoveLife Mystery School, Sarah slowly gained confidence in her abilities to attract a healthy giving guy. After a few months of re-framing her mind and healing her heart, she began online dating again with a new outlook and restored hope for the future. She soon met Eric, a quality man who is able to show her love and affection. They’ve made a commitment to each other to see where things will lead, with the mutual goal to raise a family together. Sarah sometimes feels anxious but connects in with our community for support to calm her jitters. She needs support less and less and her anxiety doesn’t rule her world anymore. She is on her way to fulfilling her dreams!

Moving Past Pain into Outrageous Self-Love

The fastest way to repel healthy men is to make them responsible for fixing your limiting beliefs. A quality man wants to join you on a joyous, adventurous journey. He doesn’t want to be the one to heal your past.

Placing the burden of rebuilding your confidence onto a man's shoulders is not his responsibility. That is an unrealistic approach that usually ends in heartbreak. It’s an outdated strategy that deprives you of the empowering journey to ignite your own self-love.

The magnetic confidence in women that men crave to be with must come from within you. It’s actually impossible for him to heal you. It’s an inside mission that only you can fulfill. Cultivating self-love is the first step to trusting freely after heartache's devastation.

I Didn't Always Have A Healthy Relationship

My journey from dysfunction junction to courageous self-love began at a young age, when I bounced from relationship to relationship, never finding a love that lasted. Before meeting the love of my life, I seemed to always choose men who weren't good for me. My relationship resume included a cheater, a drug dealer, an ankle bracelet wearer (i.e., convicted felon), a con artist and an alcoholic. When I dated good men, I quickly ended the relationships. I was not able to attract a healthy, giving guy. I didn’t know what I was doing!

I had no idea how to recognize the "nice guy" I should actually date. I didn't value myself enough to choose wisely. I lacked confidence and self-love and I didn't understand how to awaken my feminine magnificence and attract a healthy lover.

Does this story resonate with you? Have you felt unable to attract the love you know you deserve? Maybe you’re in a great relationship but you’ve been unable to trust him enough to express your desires?

If so, I have an incredible message for you. The skills to become a magnetic match for the relationship you’ve always dreamed of can absolutely come to life! I have a proven system to transform your relationship journey from one of anxiety and confusion to one of confidence, clarity, happiness and excitement!

Jump on a call with me so we can move the trajectory of your relationship journey! I’m here to support you every step of the way so you can finally get off the relationship roller coaster and become SUPER CONFIDENT in EVERYTHING you’re doing in your LoveLife.

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